Below are a broad selection of comments from current members regarding their experiences using this site and advice to new members.
"I think you have a good tool right now. Under each profile you have a spot to check what other people have said about there meeting and how it went. As to first meeting....Well just have to talk a lot back and forth till you somewhat know the person."
"I have been very pleased with the results I have gotten from your web site. I have exchanged massages with several men and women. All the experiences have been very enjoyable. I am not that experienced at giving massages, but I have learned from each person I have massaged. The massages I have received have been quite good and relaxing.
I usually start with answering the free rub message. After communicating that way in a couple of messages, I will give him/her my e-mail address. After exchanging messages on e-mail, if I feel comfortable with the person, I will give him/her my cell phone number. Then we talk over the phone, and if we both feel comfortable, we set up a date, time and place for the massage exchange. If a female, I usually offer to meet first for coffee before we do the massage exchange. Naturally, there have been some people that I decided not to have a massage exchange with for various reasons."
"I am a professional massage therapist. I love what I do very much. But, I have often thought, what a shame I am here making a living massaging husbands and wives and children and that they are not massaging each other. I just came upon your site by accident but want to say I am thrilled to see your services being offered to the masses. Wonderful. I would rather train people to massage each other than try to give massage to the whole world myself. I just wanted to tell you that this is great work you are doing. From one massage lover to the next. If I can ever do anything to assist in the education of your members, I would be delighted."
"- Don't be afraid to send a message, wait for a reply or two and then decide how interested you are in pursuing a meeting.
-Most of us are shy of the unknown. Sometimes, it's great to just take a chance. My experiences have all been good.
-Not a bad idea to list more info in your profile. I look a profiles every time before responding."
"As an active member of the freerub site who has had some success in finding massage partners, I offer the following tips or advice to make you experience a good one:
Make sure your profile on the site is complete. You're more apt to receive a good response if your prospective partners know as much as they can about you to see if you might be a good match. Be specific about the kind of partner you're seeking and include a recent picture.
Try to respond to any inquiries in a timely manner. Everyone appreciates a quick response and being a good respondent will increase the chance that you will connect with someone.
Be honest in both your profile and your response to a prospective partner. Everyone deserves to be treated with all due respect and no one likes a surprise, especially when you will be sharing intimate time together during massage.
Before agreeing to meet with someone, make absolutely sure both you and your prospective partner are in complete agreement as far as expectations - type of massage, location and start and stop times. Deciding together the particulars of a session makes it easier and more comfortable for each of you."
"I enjoy your site very much and i have been able to connect with several guys for a mutual rub down. It would be my wish that more guys (and gals) would join the site to take advantage of the relaxation and physical contact of a good massage! Again, thanks for developing and keeping this site available to all of us!"
"I found a great female partner who was able to meet in her office.
She gives a fantastic massage and is comfortable with another man.
I respected every one of her limits and we both enjoyed the session.
I look forward to my next visit to Dallas to give her as much time as needed.
Communication is crucial in building a base of trust between two people.
I think this is a great site for like minded adults to share personal time together."
"First, let me say that the site has led me to a few very good exchange partners. So, it works. It is easy and user friendly.
I would like to see more information up front on the partners so it is easier to make a decision as to whom I would like to contact. I think that more fields should be mandatory to fill out. When we think of massage, the questions you ask are very reasonable to answer if you are serious about finding a massage partner.
I have sometimes received messages from people who have been frustrated because they say they have messaged me several times. I make it a point to answer everyone that writes even if it is to say that I don't think it is an appropriate match so, I wonder if the messaging system is 100% reliable.
Again, I have found a couple of terrific partners so, I am so glad I belong to freerub. Hope you are around for a long time. Good luck to you and the company. Thanks, Trev."
Thanks Jay, I haven't received any other complaints about out message system recently. I guess this is due to our recent upgrades! Trev
"I think there is much anxiety about meeting someone the first time. What I have experienced is that sometimes things workout and sometimes they don't. The best way to approach things is with mutual respect. If things don't work out when you meet then be honest and move on. But always be kind and not offensive or disrespectful."
"I would encourage people to make use of the box where you can describe yourself - so many of the messages I have gotten are from people who have not made the effort to describe themselves, and that makes me reluctant to follow up with meeting them."
"Well, I'd have to say that it would certainly be helpful if more folks would post pictures on here. That certainly has been helpful to me in figuring out who I might want to get together with to trade massage, as well as to others who've seen my picture. Also, filling out all aspects of your profile with as much detail as possible sure gives a better indication of the type of person, rather than "no answer". And absolutely, if two members DO connect, post feedback! Yes, third-party testimonials are always better than first-person claims, so I would encourage everyone who has met someone on here to post testimonials about their experience!"
"I would suggest two things. First don't put an ad here unless you are serious. Second, if the person's profile or bio does not interest you, at least have the courtesy to send a reply saying you are not interested. Thanks for the site."
"Hi Trev, best thing to do is to join for a month and post your photo. Be open to communicate what you are looking for. There seems to be a lot of great peopel on here. Everyone I have talked to are very honest and genuine. A really great site for trading back rubs, etc."
"The sight has been wonderful, I have exchanged with several men, all who say women do not respond to them. This is a shame as most of them give a fair to good massage. Some are not to my liking but that is normal, cann't win them all. And there are so many techniques out there to try. I wish I could keep track of them by massage and give them infomation to others but I get a web name and cann't match to the real name. This would help the other ladies out there to beware of a to hard pressure person, a person who only wants to look at your butt, and those wonderful people who give a great massage. Thanks Abraham, and others who I can't think of your names now."
"Seems like there are alot of people looking for exchange in the st louis area. Have met with one person who seems quite nice and emailed a few others. So far the site seems like a great source for swapping rubs!!"
"I would say that a new members should be very clear about who they'd like to communicate with.
As a professional Massage Therapist, I only want to talk with others that are professional, unless you'd like to be a client. Since I changed my wording, I've not received anymore emails from lonely men. (But it's probably because the site administrator has been VERY diligent at trying to keep them off the site)
By the way, I live in rural Maine (all of Maine is rural!!), and actually found another professional from the area!! Didn't expect that! So if I can find some one close by-any one can!!!
This really is a good site to join. Since I've been a member, it has grown tremendously. Not only that, the site Administrator is a hands-on guy. He e-mails me personally...no form letters. And he's now trying to provide CEU's for the professional body worker!! That's not easy to find on-line! Your comments and suggestions are taken seriously here"
"....What is nice is that the freerub membership allows personal conversation, education and inquiry without feeling embarrassed about massage desires and techniques. The open-mindedness of the membership is comfortable. Still, finding the right massage partner isn't easy. It takes many communications and openness like any other social relationship to make it work."
"Well, Trev, I would say a person should be at ease with the person they want to exchange massages with. Pictures should posted to give people the comfort in seeing a face with a profile. And last, sometimes people can be a little vague about what it truly is they are looking for, so if people are honest and communicate openly it will save a lot of confusion."
"I've e-mailed several prospective members, one a response to an e-mail I received. A couple of members who I e-mailed never responded, including the member who e-mailed me first! In my inquiry to two other members initiating a massage exchange, I simply wrote a few general comments about myself and my enjoyment of both giving & receiving massage, and was able to latch up with both members. I found that over the course of several e-mails with each individual, I got to know and feel comfortable with them so that made the meeting and the massage easy and comfortable. I think if I had gotten bad or strange vibes in the emails, I would have not pursued an exchange. In my case, the experience was good both times, although with the second individual, I felt his massage was too light and I prefer a somewhat deeper tissue approach. I have a second session with the guy from my first exchange this weekend. Although I had figured having a couple exchange partners would work the best, I think with my schedule, arranging for a massage once every few weeks is probably the best I can do. Anyway, its' been a good experience. And I recommend a few e-mail exchanges over the course of a week or two to get to feel comfortable (or decide you're not comfortable) with the other member."
"Well, I think as most know or should know if they've been on the 'net' for awhile, one should always be careful dealing with anyone 'online'. Even though this is a great site for massage therapists (and other massage-experienced people) to find other massage therapists to trade with, there are those that may not be what the say they are. It's an advantage having the '6th sense' in knowing if someone is genuine or fake and knowing what they are really looking for (i.e. legit/therapeutic massage or sensual massage or just plain sex). So just be careful. You might need to ask the questions that get you the answers you're looking for. And some chatting online in a general since might help some too while you are figuring out a schedule to possibly meet. It goes for guys just as well as girls in being careful. Because it takes all kinds of people, good and bad, to make things happen, good and bad.
I hope there are less and less till there are no more of those that are looking for sex on this site. And there's no constituting a sensual massage as nonsexual. (That's my professional opinion). Massage Therapists have enough of a hard time trying to find someone to give them a massage to the best of their liking. I know I do. I'm still looking for that therapist who can 'rub me the right way'. I hope that it doesn't take you long to find that person or persons you can trade massages with on a regular basis. It is a way of body maintenance that everyone should keep up on."
"My advice would be: be discriminating, always email, talk on the phone, and meet in person before deciding whether you want to trade. Always be clear about your intentions, your boundaries, and what you're looking to get from exchanging.
I've met a few very nice people, and I've met a few otherwise. But that's true of life in general, I guess.
Although I regret there arent more experienced therapists on the site, it's not always about formal technique."
"Just make contact through the site until you feel comfortable. Then maybe exchange a more conveniate way to communicate. Clear up your expectations ahead of time. Then arrange to meet ( I feel wherever the female is comfortable). After that arrange the exchange. Then communicate your satisfaction level to the partner and decide if you would like to continue to meet."
"As a new member of FreeRub, here are a few helpful hints to help you in the process of finding prospective trades for massage:
When in the "search" mode, members who have taken the time to complete the profile information, sharing about themselves, usually have the most to offer in the massage experience. If you send an email to the member, you in turn need to give them adequate information about yourself and what you are looking for in the experience. Once you have made contact and a mutual agreement of interest is established, share a phone number, and proceed with your arrangement via phone if possible. If you are inexperienced with massage, it is OK to approach an experienced member. Learning technique is a way to raise the level of expertise in the membership. If you are experienced, do not be afraid to share your knowledge with the less experienced.
The foremost purpose of an exchange is to share good, quality body work, to learn new technique, and is a wonderful way to share intimacy. ...FreeRub is about improvement of skill level, quality body work, and FREE massage, it is not a sex service.
Some helpful hints for creating a good massage experience.
Never be a "no show"! If you arrange a time to meet, be there and be prompt. If you are not comfortable, trust your instinct and "politely" decline the massage. There is no need to be rude. Be sensitive to your partners needs, aware of health concerns, consider all limits and boundaries. Create a good atmosphere for massage, some suggestions:
Turn off phones
Make the person comfortable
Provide water to stay hydrated
Allow adequate time for the experience
Maintain excellent hygiene, be clean
Pour oil on hands, not directly on the body
Encourage verbal feedback
Respect limits and boundaries
Be generous, caring and loving
Always be good mannered
Teach and learn good technique
If you have a bad experience, keep the director of FreeRub posted so the member can be contacted and the uncomfortable situation discussed.
ENJOY YOUR MASSAGES"
"Trev, I have only been a member for a couple of months now, but have met with 3 different people for massages! I have just sent a short e-mail the first time, then a couple of more as they reply back to me, just to get to know each other. It is really best to meet for coffee, lunch or dinner before going somewhere to enjoy your first mutual massage experience. I am pleased with the results, and will renew my membership."
"I have made may friends due to this site and have also exchanged massages with at least 8 people. I find though a lot of people just surf the site and don't bother to meet others or try to get together due to there marriage status. I'm very true and open with everyone I (we) have met. I just can't believe people won't spend $19.95 to join ..."
"Sure I would be happy to tell you some of the major things the members do. They write one line sentences and expect an instant meeting. I don't take this site to be a joke and the men on here shouldn't either. I think before they expect an instant meeting, they should converse first. This site isn't a porn site so don't write the ladies with the let's get together for a massage line.
I hope this has helped you to better make the men on here realize the females who are members are normal high values women who might really not be able to afford a massage that isn't in a sexual nature."
"The best advice I can give someone trying to arrange a massage trade is to set up a first meeting at a neutral (public) setting where you can get acquainted and talk face to face before any physical exchange is traded. It's easy and non-threatening to meet over a cup of coffee. Just as with any other type of internet meeting place, you can never really tell who you are talking to by relying on only written text. The first meeting helps set the guidelines and establishes whether there is good chemistry to work with. Some meetings are successful and others not so much. Be honest and clear with your expectations to get the most out of the experience."